"I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become." - Carl Jung


What types of Anxiety are they?


Anxiety has many forms and manifest in several different levels, such as suffering from obsessive thoughts, all consuming worry, panic attacks, social anxiety, phobias and general anxiety disorders.

At times most individual feel anxious at times, which include things like going in to important social situations or meeting someone new for the first time.


When would I consider or need treatment for anxiety?


When the frequency and intensity of fears and anxiety interfere with normal everyday living and are continuous overwhelming patterns, which do not subside, there may be an undying issues which needs addressing. These fear could be affecting relationships with family, friends or prevent you from doing things that create happiness and joy or have negative unpacks on a person.


What can happen if anxiety is left untreated?


If left untreated, anxiety and anxiety disorders can create an increase in consequences. For instance, individuals who are in situations that set off or trigger anxiety or panic attacks, may consciously or unconsciously avoidance people places or things associated with what they may think is creating the anxiety. These behaviors may involve avoiding, work, family or places which are requirements or social obligations for daily functioning.


Individuals that leave anxiety untreated anxiety often also at times have other psychological difficulties or disorders such as depression. Often people gravitate towards heavy drinking and other drugs. Their relationships with family members, friends and co-workers at times become very difficult and strained.


How can therapy help me recover or manage anxiety?


Therapy can help, and you don't have to chose to live with fear & anxiety.

Research states that therapy is the most effective form of treatment because unlike medication, therapy looks at uncovering the root causes of your anxiety, rather than just treating symptoms of the original cause. A major part of individual who access effective psychological treatment improve considerable than those who don't.


What happens in therapy when addressing anxiety issues?


Looking at causes of anxiety and challenging them may mean learning how to relax, re-framing situation to view them in a less frightening way, exposing gradually your fears to you, and developing better coping and problem-solving skills to reduce anxiety.


Other ways of treating anxiety is to first identifying your negative thoughts, understand what situations are seen as more dangerous than they really are. However, People find it difficult to identify there own irrational (fearful thought) as this can be a hard task to do. Once this has been achieved a therapist may help you to start to challenge your negative thoughts by questioning the evidence for your fearful thoughts, uncovering unhelpful beliefs, and testing out the reality of negative predictions.


There are strategies for challenging negative thoughts which include setting up experiments, activity seeking the pros and cons of worrying or avoiding whatever you fear, and concluding the chances of what you predict will happen. Finally, a therapist will encourage replacing negative thoughts with more realistic thoughts, or positive affirmations and calming thoughts that will help individual cope better with anxiety in particular situations.



 What is addiction?


Addiction can be defined as an inability to control certain repetitive behaviours or substances to the extent that they cause harmful consequences. As a result of a powerful compulsions to consume substances or behave in a manner which is excessive, often out of a need to escape from upsetting emotions/situations.


These compulsions can be the start of automatic thought processes, which can cause pain and suffering not only for those addicted, but for family and friends.


What are the different types or forms of addictions ?


Addictions can take many forms, including drinking alcohol, taking drugs, eating, gambling, sex and Shopping. Often addictions begin as a result of how these activities make people "feel" emotionally and physically. These feelings can be pleasurable or relief seeking behaviours - triggering a powerful urge to carry out the activity again to recreate this 'high'. Once this pattern has been started it can become a continuous pattern which becomes difficult to stop or moderate.


At what point do individual access therapy for addiction?


Individuals who suffer from an addiction may only access treatment when they hit a crisis point in there life, which is usually due the the harms caused by there addiction and behaviour or when the substance is not longer available. This can motivate a person to seek treatment for there addiction.


What are the causes of addiction?


An addiction is typically not a person addicted to a substance or a behaviour but addicted to altering there mood as it bring a sense of reward or relief. It is uncovering the reason an individual is wanting or needing to alter there mood which can help someone to recover. Typically addiction results in a combination of physical, emotional and circumstantial factors, such as the following:


  • Family history - parents with addictions can also contribute to an individuals forming an addiction.


  • Mental health issue - Addictions are related to people who suffer from other mood difficulties such as depression or anxiety.


  • Social event - many people can use substances in order to 'fit in' or feel comfortable in groups.


  • Childhood trauma - childhood issues can be the root of an addiction due to traumatic events or learnt roles we play in life, other factors such as neglect, family conflict or abuse.


What are the therapy approaches towards Addiction treatment?


Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is effective when used in addiction counselling because it helps individuals to become aware and correct problematic behaviours via the application of easy to use coping skills.


CBT also helps to address underlying issues that often co-occur with an addiction, and this is important factor for targeting the root cause(s). Essentially, by interrupting the pattern of an addiction, therapy can provides a new way for people with addictions to think, feel and act - re-framing maladaptive behaviour and negative beliefs and removing the unhelpful thinking to help a person view difficult situations with a new perspective. This is important for helping people to make changes, which is often thought of as more difficult than stopping the addiction.


Motivating interview is a form of counselling where the therapist helps individuals work through ambivalence towards change by accessing change talk and identifying blocks that prevent change.



What is depression and how is depression different from brief sadness?


Most people feel sad or low-in-mood on occasions. It is also normal to grieve over upsetting life experiences, like illnesses, the death of a loved one (family/friend), a loss or change of a job or a divorce. However, for the majority of people these feelings of grief, sadness appear to decrease in time. But, if a person's feelings of sadness, loss and grief continue for weeks or longer, and these feelings include problems with daily life duties, then something more serious than "feeling down or low" may be happening.


Depressed individuals appear to feel hopeless, helpless, useless and individuals tend blame themselves or others for feeling this way. Depressed people can become overwhelmed, tried and unmotivated which may stop them from contributing in their normal life activities. They may distance themselves from family and friends, and at times even have thoughts of death or suicide.


Why do people become depressed?


At times its not always easy to uncover the root causes instantly with depression, but occasionally there can be obvious reason why you feel so low.

It could stem from disappointment or frustration or it could be that you’ve lost something or someone that you value. At times there will be more than one reason why people suffer from depression, and these reasons can be different from person to person.


What are some of the causes of depression?


Some of the common reasons underlying the causes of depression can include:


  • Stressful or emotional life events:  Distressing life events can have a profound effect on people.  family issues, divorce or losing a job are transitional experiences in life, which can effect our mood in the long-term.


  • Childhood experiences:  Your experiences as a child could affect you later in adult life.  Being neglected of emotional needs, (love, safety, guidance), or abused physically/emotionally and we're not taught or learned how to cope with issues in life, could result in people having problems as they grow up.


  • Addiction or drug/alcohol use:  Drinking heavily quite frequently can make you more susceptible to the risks of developing depression.


  • Anger:  ‘Unexpressed anger’ is a phrase linked to depression. You might have experienced something that made you angry, but in that moment you couldn’t or didn't express your feelings. This type of anger generally results in it being suppressed; it could then build up and become a primary cause of depression.


  • Bereavement:  Losing people in your life that you love (even from natural causes), can increase the ability to alter our mood and trigger low moods. At times it’s not the loss that causes it, it’s the ability to cope with it. If you don’t grieve or express feelings properly, that could then be suppressed unknowingly and contribute towards depression.


  • Circumstances:  Feeling like you’re alone, stressed, physically exhausted and/or have no one to talk to can all cause the mental health condition.


  • Social media:  The media itself doesn't trigger or cause direct depression. however, it can contribute to high expectation and ideas that results in people constantly comparing themselves and there life to other peoples’, which has been linked to a cause of depression.


How does therapy and there approaches help treat depression?


Cognitive-behavioral approaches highlight learning to become aware and change maladaptive thought patterns and behaviors. This will improve how feelings and worries are managed, to alter the cycle of dysfunctional habitual behaviors.


This helps people to see the connection between how they think, what they tell themselves, and the feelings and actions that follow as a result.

Interpersonal approaches aim at identifying and understanding self-defeating patterns in relationships, becoming aware of why a particular situation is happening in a particular context, and changing patterns that don't create a desired effect and don’t work by developing healthier ones.

In this approach, relationships and the here-and-now moments are the focus.

Relationship & Intimacy Issues

What are the signs of a Relationship in distress & Intimacy Issues?


Ever noticed that when you’re in conflict with your partner, you tend to go round in circles and have the same arguments repeatedly?


Find that your caught up in a turbulent pattern of finger-pointing and frustration? Each member of the the relationship feeling wronged and stuck? Do you see your partner as an enemy, Not an ally.


Do you have little or no intimacy between your loved one whatsoever, and no matter how much try, the problem isn’t getting better.


If you keep experiencing the same cycle of arguments with your partner, you’re probably in a pattern that has nothing to do with them.


Your partner and the situation could be acting as triggers for an underlying often longstanding issue. And these arguments will repeat until the issues are uncovered.


Awareness has the power to completely transform your relationship with not just yourself, but your partner and anyone else you communicate or relate with.


It may feel like there’s always a “bad guy” in an argument, in a relationship you’re usually looking at a dynamic. Overcoming years of patterns requires practice, dedication and commitment.



How therapy can change resolve relationship problems and create more intimacy?


At rethink therapy we will learn and guide you in all you need to challenge seeing your partner as an enemy, but as an ally. We will discuss and teach you simple techniques you can use anytime that will help you instantly shift from a negative state about your partner to one of positivity &connection.


- How to prevent destructive fights before they start

- Communicate from a place of vulnerability and honest rather than attacking or blaming

- Connect on a whole new level that reverses the negative patterns that can easily drain the love out of any relationship

- How to appreciated yourself and your partner for all that you are (your relationship will become a constant source of rejuvenation and inspiration).

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